Are you constantly belittled, treated unfairly, or the target of your partner’s anger? If so, chances are you are in a toxic relationship. This condition should not be taken lightly, you know, because it can have a bad impact on your health. Come on, recognize the signs!
What is a toxic relationship?
Toxic relationship is a term to describe an unhealthy relationship that can have a negative impact on a person’s physical and mental state. This relationship can not only occur in lovers, but also in the circle of friends, friendzone, and even family.
What are the warning signs of a toxic relationship?
In a relationship, ideally each individual will love each other, love, and provide a sense of security. However, in a toxic relationship, one party will usually try to dominate the other party, or manipulate the partner (gaslighting) to control it, or just play with their partner (breadcrumbing).
One way that can be done to achieve this is to do a silent treatment or silence when angry.
Unfortunately, many people do not realize that they are stuck in a toxic relationship. However, this relationship often makes one party feel pressured. This is why toxic relationships should not be allowed to drag on.
Besides being able to lower self-esteem, this condition can cause a person to experience mental health disorders, such as anxiety, stress, depression. In addition, this mental burden is not impossible to cause physical health problems, such as psychosomatic disorders.
There are some signs of a toxic relationship that you can find if you are in it. These signs include:
- Always controlled by partner
The most obvious sign of a toxic relationship is that one party always controls the other. For example, your partner will impose his will on the life you live.
So, whatever you do is all based on orders or approval from him, even though your wishes may not be in line. In addition, toxic people can also give silent treatment to control their partner’s emotions.
He or she may also utter a sentence that makes you have to do what he or she wants, for example, “I’m acting like this because I love you.” If you disobey him, he or she may accuse you of not loving him/her. This makes you inevitably follow his wishes.
- It’s hard to be yourself
Because you are controlled too often, you can’t be yourself. You will always act like what he or she wants, not what you want. In fact, just to have an opinion, you can think many times for fear that what you say will be a mistake in his eyes.
- No support
A healthy relationship is a relationship that always supports each other. However, in a toxic relationship, every achievement obtained will be considered a competition.
In fact, your partner may be displeased if you manage to do something that should make them proud. Instead of getting support and appreciation, you get harsh words and unhelpful criticism that will hinder your success.
- Always suspected and restrained
Jealousy in relationships between partners is actually a normal reaction as a form of caring. However, the relationship will become toxic if this jealousy is excessive or makes your partner do extreme things, such as confiscating your cellphone or hitting the person he or she is jealous of.
Relationships are also said to be toxic when the partner is too possessive. He or she always wants to know about all your daily activities and will get angry if you don’t answer his text messages immediately. In addition, sometimes he or she also forbids you to no longer wear certain types of clothes that might attract the attention of others.
- Often lied to
Honesty is one of the foundations for forming a healthy relationship. However, if your partner often lies and covers things up, it’s a sign that you are currently in a toxic relationship.
- Accept physical violence
In addition to verbal violence, a relationship is said to be toxic if there is already physical violence in it. Emotionally unhealthy partners will often “play hands” if there is a dispute in the relationship. Whatever the conflict, physical violence cannot be justified, yes.
What to do if you’re in a toxic relationship
People who are trapped in toxic relationships have the potential to lose confidence and happiness. This can have a negative impact on mental and physical health. Therefore, it is important for you to recognize the signs of a toxic relationship and immediately take the right decision if it happens to your relationship.
Getting out of a toxic relationship is not easy. However, remember that you must love yourself and think about your life in the future. No matter how much you love him or her, believe that you deserve to be with someone who can appreciate, respect, and love you sincerely.
If you are stuck in a toxic relationship and find it difficult to get out of the relationship, try asking someone you trust for help. If necessary, try to consult a psychologist for the best advice so that you can overcome or end this toxic relationship.